The Child wants Example, NOT Advice

Abul Momen

Poet, writer and columnist

I’ve seen while working with the children in the 41 years of my career, that children never learn from words. They hate advice but want examples. They learn by observing. The way they try to fit in larger shoes and dresses of their elders, they also learn manners and behavior from them.

The parents can’t expect their children to be well-behaved and calm when they keep or arguing all day! He must be presented with proper examples so he understands the difference between right and wrong, so he knows what is acceptable. The parents must also ensure that he gets the age appropriate knowledge as well. He must be provided with ‘learning of life’. The schools in our country don’t take the responsibility of those knowledge, hence it’s the parents’ job, it’s the family’s job.

If all get occupied with GPA-5, the children won’t be able to develop completely. He might score great in English and Mathematics, but he would fail in humanity, he won’t become a humane, a good human. And that would cause him to commit several mistakes as the place for values and morals in his life is empty.

A generation is being constructed that cannot differ between right and wrong. If the truth is 100 percent the lie would be 0. But they tend to think the lie is 80 percent and they can reach the truth with this lie. A society, a nation cannot move forward or advance in this way.